Sandwich

A complex symbol, sandwiches connect to the novel’s thematic interest in Shifting Family Dynamics and to Rocky’s characterization. She introduces herself initially through her familial relationships: to her husband, children, and parents. As she enters middle age, she finds herself suddenly “sandwiched” between her aging parents’ generation and that of her children and notes her age as equidistant between her parents and her children. Rocky has always defined herself largely through these family relationships, but as her parents and children age, the nature of her relationships with them changes, and that is one of the key challenges that she navigates. Although certain aspects of parenting ease as her children age, new difficulties arise. Aging parents represent another set of relational issues, and Rocky experiences these twin problems as an unexpected “growing pain” of middle age.

In addition, sandwiches symbolize Rocky’s particular parenting style and the way she must grow and adapt as her family changes. Rocky prepares sandwiches for the family’s lunch every day, individualizing them to each family member’s specific preferences. She’s aware that she has always been the more hands-on parent, the emotionally invested parent, and (if she’s totally honest) the parent who wants to be in control.